Monday, January 10, 2011

Should The Boy And I Take A Little Trip??

It would be fun...

if I can bring myself to leave my little ladies for a few days...

because I do not like to be away from them.

Have I ever mentioned that?? I have? 1000's of times? Sorry.

I've decided to go to Blissdom (blog/writing conference) this year again, its in a few weeks. I've saved some money, and I have great roomies. It was so fun last year, and I met so many wonderful women - I can't wait to catch up and see everyone.

But most of all, I could just use a break, a deep breath, a chance to actually eat a meal without cutting up the food of the person next to me :).

I have let myself get so stressed out lately with the kids, Eric working late, money, friends, you name it, I've stressed about it. My Dr thinks that all the "stress" could be causing some early contractions - everything is fine, just some stronger-than-we'd-like braxton hicks.

BUT.

Even though I could use a little breather, I hate being away from my savvy little women. It is so hard for me to pack my bags and leave. I tell you friends, I'm a mother obsessed with her kids. You know what else I struggle with SO bad??

Mommy guilt.

Goodness, I make myself feel so bad about going away for 3 full days, even though it would probably be good for everyone :). The girls will get some spoiling time in with the grandparents, and dad will get some extra time to spend with his little girls.

So tell me, do you ever take a break? A weekend away? Some time to yourself?

The little man and I should take a trip, shouldn't we??

19 comments:

Jennifer said...

Kate, I too, have a tough time leaving the kids. I can count on three fingers the times I have left them. Two were for deliveries of other siblings. The other was for my gigi's funeral. I just can't do it!! So good for you for taking the time to go away and relax. Have a ball!!

Mama D.'s Dozen said...

Yes ... take that trip. Throw away the Mommy Guilt. Seriously. Your girls will have a better mommy, when you can get away and de-stress for a few days.

You bet ... I have always made it a priority to get away for a weekend or two every year. Usually 1 weekend for a Ladies Retreat and a 2nd weekend away with sweet hubby.

We don't even have any involved grandparents to help with the kids. We used to ask 5 or 6 friends if they would take 1 or 2 kids for a weekend, so that Papa & Mama time as a priority. Now ... we ask the Big Kids to watch the Young Ones for a few days.

Look forward to hearing all about your weekend away.

Laurel

cowartclan said...

Kate,

I have a 3 year old and 2 year old twins, and HATE to leave them BUT, but once I am out the door for my once a year girlie weekend and there; I truly have a great time. I have found I am a happier, better mom for it AND their Daddy gets a chance to be the AMAZING Daddy he is. They get SPECIAL memories with Daddy. I am thrilled to return home, but the break is wonderful for all. Guilt ~ don't, because they have so much fun and enjoy a break from the ordinary (meaning us Moms)! So go ~ have fun!! ~ and return home refreshed! Do it! It will do wonders for you, and your little savvies will have the time of their life getting a "special" fun weekend with grandma and Daddy!

Marva said...

Yes, you should. No explaining necessary! :) Have a great trip!

jenny said...

I was just talking with my SIL about "mommy guilt" earlier today....I think every mom struggles with it.....but as the above comments said, once you are actually on the road you will have so much fun. And just think, kinda a special weekend of bonding with your littlest guy! :) I definitely think you should go. Enjoy yourself, enjoy the time with other fun women, and come back refreshed and ready to be in full mommy mode again. Can't wait to hear all about it!

Sarah Halstead said...

I know EXACTLY what you are going through. Dustyn drives me up the walls sometimes so I need a break, but then when I get away I can't wait to get back.

My advice though is to go to Blissdom. I know it will be hard, but take that time to relax and have fun before your little prince gets here.

Stacie@HobbitDoor said...

Feeling your mommy guilt! I have the hardest time even planning a date night with Ralph now that I am a full time working momma! We did take a weekend away in November and it was wonderful (and all we did is talk about our girls!). Push through the mommy guilt and have fun!

Joan said...

My husband and I have and do. In fact, yesterday my parents took the kids ALL day and we went out shopping eat lunch, dinner ect. And as much as I missed the kids, and we spoke about them non stop. The break from the daily routine was amazing, worth it and so priceless. I think if anything it would be perfect timing, especially before the little one gets here. Like a little get away before the engine kicks in again full throttle =).

Katy & Ross said...

I can't imagine wanting to leave those cute faces either, but I think a weekend away would be GREAT! If nothing else, at least you don't have to wash the sheets you're sleeping on later and you don't have to do the dishes! It'll also help with the stress.

becky said...

Well, you already know my thoughts on this--you are going to have an awesome time and you deserve it!! Eric and the girls will have a blast, and just think of the 5 excited hugs you'll get when you get home!

On a side note, I didn't know it bothered you so much to cut up my food for me. I guess I'll start doing it myself... :)

Laura said...

I have been away and you should go away, it made me feel refreshed, not that I didn't miss my girls, but every mother needs an opportunity to get back to themselves a little and then they can be better mothers!

You are always with them and THAT is what they will remember, not the 3 days you weren't.

wonderchris said...

Go and have a good time. You are your little man could use it!!! You can come back refreshed!! That doesn't sound like a bad thing!! :)

mandbrid said...

Go!

Thoughts for the day said...

My vote is to go. Enjoy yourself and rest, and if you need to call them daily. Three days is a short trip and they will survive and you will come home refreshed with lot's on your mind and your heart. If your hubby is taking over ... go.

Amber said...

oh my you must get a break! i do it from time to time and its priceless. yes, i have to quiet my mind with it's guilt and outlandish fears. but it will be so, so worth it! you'll feel rested and even more thankful to see those sweet faces!

Sarah said...

gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Absolutely, 1000% GO. Everyone will have a great time, and you will be a better wife, a better mom, a better woman for it.

Marisa said...

Well, girl, you know what i think! And if you need help with the girls just let me know!

Amy@My Front Porch said...

I'm the same way -- I think all the time how nice it would be to have some alone time but when it comes right down to it, I HATE leaving my girls! And the mommy guilt -- gets me every time. I try to remind myself that some moms are away from their kids at work AT LEAST 40 hours every week, so a day or two every year...or even just a couple of hours on a Saturday...is miniscule in comparison! It'll be good for everyone, you're right!

Kathy@House of Hills said...

SO glad you decided to go and can't wait to meet you!!!