Monday, January 18, 2010

It Is What It Is

We are struggling. I just wanted to share that.

I know it's just a season, and I know life isn't always easy.

I want to go on and on about these sweet pants...


But there are so many other things to talk about.

I hate (and that is a word I don't love to use) admitting that we have hit a rough patch, but we have. Don't get me wrong, everyone is healthy, and I am thankful for so many things...
Like a God that lets us go through times because we need to grow. And a God that sends so many blessings to help calm His child, even if the storm is still raging.

We are struggling.

In our communication, in our parenting, and in our marriage. We are just trying to keep our heads above water.

I just felt like I needed to be real.

We need to refocus, reconnect, and remember our Foundation. That is sometimes easier said than done.

We are beaten down. By our situation, and by each other.

It's so much easier to write about these little feet...

Sigh...love those toes.

Anyway, I just needed to write this down. After all, it is our real life. Thanks for reading, thanks for listening, and thanks for hanging around this little circus :).

Here's hoping that light hearted posts are in the near future :)!

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Update...

Thanks sooo much for all your thoughts. We are good. We have definitely hit a rough, and interesting patch in our journey. We are looking forward to seeing what growth God has planned along this road.

29 comments:

Sarah said...

Kate, I know what that's like. I'm praying for you guys! And praying that God makes you stronger through it all.

Elizabeth said...

Oh girl!!! I get this post!!! Thanks for posting real life too!!!! I do love babies toes!!!!

Megan said...

Kate...first, BIG hug! This blog pal genuinely appreciates your honesty...I did a little reality blogging today myself...it does help. You are not alone...praying for healing,victory in your marriage and JOY!!!!

Elizabeth said...

I haven't commented before (I think your blog is beautiful) but I wanted to say I hope that life gets better and that your struggles end. If blog support helps, please know we are out here sending you positive thoughts and prayers.

Laurel said...

Thanks for the honesty. I haven't been able to come up with any light hearted posts in awhile, either. And ... I, too, admitted that my marriage was struggling this week.

Praying for you!

mama of many

tabby said...

Just want you to know I'm thinking of you. The devil is testing you. He is feeding off of your situation.Weather this storm. Take some time out for the two of you.It will get better. A marriage is the hardest relationship to work on because there are so many things stacked against it. Thanks for the post...we also struggle at my house but there is a reason for everything. God will pull you through.
and...those sweet little pants....so cute....baby gap?
...thinking of you and your family...

A little piece of 7th heaven said...

Kate..I hear you in more ways than I want or am willing to admit.
The first thing is recognizing it and admitting it..THEN working on it..which is THE HARD, HARD part..
haven't gotten it right yet...
but there is such a deep rooted love..which is almost amazing in itself..too bad the rest of life has to get in the way.

bass family said...

Kate, thank you for being honest and vulnerable. I am praying for you. Is there anything else I can do?? No seriously... I mean it. Send me an email or write me on facebook or something...

Jessica said...

Your honesty it beautiful. I am praying for you right now and I will continue to!!

Laura@knittinginatree.com said...

Kate- I can totally relate. I really appreciate you posting this on your blog- the real stuff matters too!

Amy@My Front Porch said...

The blogs I love the most are the ones that are real.

Everybody goes through rough patches. Keep leaning on our Savior! Praying for you.

Heidi Walker said...

The first step to healing is admitting there is a wound to begin with. You have taken the first step now you must be mindful and know that there will be a better time soon. Perhaps you and your husband should have a silly time set aside. Just for the two of you to be silly with each other. Maybe just an hour. Laughter heals wounds especially when you laugh with people you love. Being silly for just a bit may remind the both of you why you are great together.

Tina Michelle said...

I am sorry you are struggling. Good for you for being real and honest! Keep talking, keep communication open and keep putting yourselves in each other's shoes so you can recognize each other's feelings. Good luck with it all. Life will work itself out!

Amber said...

we have definitely been there! but as you said, this season of winter will turn into spring, with the Lord's help of course! He makes all things new!

TwinsanityMom said...

Thank you so much for this post! I know things are rough right now...I'm feeling it too. I really needed someone to give their honest view on life to know that I am not the only one out there going through things. Sometimes hearing all the good things that are going on in everyone elses life makes things seem even worse. Love that you are keeping it real and look forward to things getting better for you. {{{hugs}}

peapodsquadmom said...

oh kate, you know how much i can relate. we'll get through our rough patches. i'm here if you need me.

A little piece of 7th heaven said...

Kate..
If you get a moment..take a listen to a song I posted..Hoping it brings some sunshine to your cloudy days!
and puts things into perspective.

Stacie@HobbitDoor said...

Praying for you today! God has allowed some big storm clouds into our life recently. We've been struggling in many ways too. Thanks for posting--as I beseech the Lord today for us, I'll add you guys to my prayers.

Marisa said...

Hey girl! I'll be praying for you! Come check out my latest post... maybe it will soothe your wounded heart! Hang in there, sister!

jenny said...

Glad we got to talk today...I am praying for you daily and know this has been a very crazy season for you guys. God really does bring beauty from ashes even when we feel beat down. Appreciate your honesty so much. Love you!

mandbrid said...

I appreciate your honesty.

I pray that you both are able to resolve your issues together and that things start looking a bit brighter soon.

Carrin said...

Kate, you are in my prayers! I know it is so hard to be in this place in your life, but GOD will make you stronger for it! Try and remember that he gives us nothing we can't handle! Call if you need anything! Remember how many people love you and your family! Carrin

Sarah said...

Oh, I know the flavor of this pain for sure. You are right, it is a season...a season that God will in the end be victorious and bless if you continue to seek Him.

During these seasons in my life, I just remind myself "I can't change my husband or family, etc. BUT, I CAN change things within myself." I can ask my husband what I do to make things better in HIS opinion. And I work on those things.

And you know what? God always uses that lead to help break the pattern of destruction (even, if in my opinion, I am being a good wife).

And then, you will praise God for this suffering b/c your marriage will be on fire for Him!!!
Thank you for this RAW honesty!
Sarah

Lenae said...

This post is amazing and refreshing. I love it.

And I linked to it, if you don't mind :)

I'll be praying for you!

Jenn @ A Country Girl's Ramblings said...

Kate, I know about the struggling communication and relationship. I've been there and its rough, but like you said God will give you the strength. He is your rock and fortress. I'll be praying for you.

heather@it'stwinsanity said...

Hang in there! I know exactly where you're coming from right now. It can only get better, right?

Jackie @ Our Moments Our Memories said...

Oh, sister. I am so there with you right now. We are in a season right now where it seems as if nothing is going right - our communications is way off, our stress levels are sky-high...it's just not a fun time right now. So I totally get this. It's also one reason why I've pulled away from blogging for awhile...it's just to hard right now to write about everything.

I will pray for you.

Wife and Mommy said...

Keeping you in my prayers.

Clever blonde said...

I just know things got better for you cause I've seen that cute little man you have. I want to thank you for your Blog and sharing about God's greatness. I found your blog last wk ironically a post about the men in white coats and I'd been thinking about how I to be taken away because we too are in a rough patch. You have helped me get through the last few days just that little bit better. Thank you & God Bless Donna G ps you know when we look back we can often see the rough patches were when there was added stress so we just got to fix what's causing the stress right? not as easy as it sounds...